5 awesome effects of loneliness


He has made loneliness the topic of lifelong research.

It is the invisible companion in his life.

He knows not know of its origins or its end. But here are some awesome effects when they are holding hands and walking together:

1. Loneliness creates Geniusness

Many a ‘brain wave’ moment have taken place when away from the fellow human being or pet or machine.

A search in solitude triggers the trajectory of discovery.

Or it establishes some never before overlooked knowledge.

All of it occurs at the end of an evening or weekend which started off with feelings of ‘something missing’ / ‘not belonging’ and much more.

It is a brave, courageous, difficult, tough, mighty and an adventure in the dark folks.

But it brings the proud moment at the end. He or she always arrives at something that makes him or her better than the beginning. Oh yes, Lonely people do live happily ever after at the end.

2. Loneliness is the new culture

Of course it is.

‘new’ as in 2012.

Here. In the now.

For the modern soul, it is a chapter in life to prepare him and her to the existential limits of possibility while not losing a grip on humanity.

How else can one comprehend the massive connections of his or her existence to all that goes on in the world today?

The stock markets, Military interventions, Heath hazards, Storm aftermaths, Lifestyle choices, Music festivals and you know better. If there is that block of time where he or she stands on to capture all of it and feed the soul – there is loneliness written somewhere on it.

We have the most connected network today. Well in the physical, structural, technological way. Be thankful to the disguised phenomenon of loneliness when it rubs the head, to wake him up or her for cultural updates.

3. Loneliness also means ‘Renewal’ and ‘Healing’

The phoenix bird. The lone ranger. The first love. The rambling heart.

All of the above had their share of solitude. A point in time when nothing in the world could douse the flames that burned the soul. Some brave souls achieved it by cooling it off  on the individualistic walk of  life.

That which nudges the heart to happiness, to the feeling of gratitude, to an act of kindness is powerful. It is a renewed state of the spirit in him or her. And it must come from within. Yes, it could be inspired by a sight or a melody.

Meditation is one technique. It is an ancient form of connecting to one’s inner self by choice. Spending energy in this manner promotes the overall health. Anyone is capable to do this. Healing works best when it is administered from within the body, along with the conscious breaths of respiration.

What does he have to lose but himself?

4.  Loneliness is the milestone to success

Success is arrival at a goal.

It is the completion of some objective.

It could be a celebration.

It could also be some profound way of getting things done which ‘he or she alone can do within his realm.’

Simple? Rings a bell?

No, it is not important to know about the life purpose and follow it to the dot in order to do something of this kind. He does not need super human strength to open the door for a fellow traveler to pass. She can smile a low radiant version at a stranger. The world needs more than materialistic advancements. It needs souls who stand out with their energy and efforts, in whatever measure they can give.

Loneliness re-defines success. So success is more than reaching the destination. It is all about happiness and the sort which is waiting to be created, the value of which is totally understood by those who have in some point of time experienced loneliness. These are the ‘milestones’. Note them down, pass them again, wave at it, it will be around to remind whether he has really ‘succeeded’ in the mortal life.

I am so big in my world, yet I know how small i am. So rub your hands together and jump up onto your feet. Success is calling.

5. Only you can command loneliness.

Of all the medicines,theories,research findings and related help for loneliness,

one common factor that helps to overcome it is –

U! The one in state of feeling alone.

What did you have for breakfast? What colors and shades are there in your dwelling? Do you get enough sunlight? What music do you listen to? What news did you read today or yesterday or last year? What were your favorite toys in childhood?

He must respect himself. The human mind is worthy of honor. It travels a maze of experiences in a lifetime, picking up information all along. Some o fit lies in the conscious memory while some are stored in the conscious. Add to this the food and its ingredients consumed. Now the inputs from different media especially the ads ‘promoting culture and society’. Then there is the music and movies and books component. So, what is the sum total of all this?

A unique personality. An individual who walks towards a distinct path with scenery similar to fellow men and women. Stride with confidence. Be aware of each slope, descent, twist or turn. Whenever it requires, sit down with loneliness and pour a cuppa. Gaze at all that is around and listen too. Note whatever ideas or options that appear. You alone make the decisions. It always is. It is what makes you so you. Command yourself!

The altar of de-Pression


The altar of de-pression

I am at the altar of de-pression.

‘No need to worry’, i heard this voice in my mind.

“You are where you need to be.” Ou! (goose bumps. Chills. Shiver me timbers). Is this my spirit guide talking?

“Stop by and stay for some more time.’

‘Music will clear the ringing pain in your heart, your limbs will understand it better. Give it (the body) some time. Be gentle and don’t be like a parent, instead be the best friend to yourself. Be G E N T L E’

Wow. I never had anyone telling me all of this. Till the time I got really sick when there was nothing else in me, no more areas left in me to get sick. I just wanted to be de-pressed – this suffocating pressure taken off me. I wanted to somehow get out of the heavy emotional and mental state.

I got therapy. I added nutritional products. I listened to relaxing music. I started meditations. and prayers. Still the biggest change-agent seemed to be missing – me. Yes. The simple one letter capital entity : ‘I”.

My therapist stated: ‘I hope I have given you all the right tools. And please work on them. Do not be hard on yourself. Ever. And I am here, let me know if you need me’. I do not remember the right words. But that was the message. She’s right – none can create a positive change or take the step towards a life of happiness that seems so impossible other than me and my mind.

Whatever time of the day, there is no excuse for cutting down on the soul-nourishment-sessions by pressing myself onto important work, must do tasks, cannot be missed appointments, dead lines.

Ok. S T O P. Stop, stop, stop it – no more getting pressed. Pressed and squeezed and crunched and being aggressive or assertive or being that which is stressing. That which drains away your power. ‘Spiritual moral ethical loving power’. That which wipes out your energy for life. Energy for life meaning, what you love to do, what makes you happy, what gets a spiritual effort from you with ease, what makes you give unconditionally with all your heart. Hey, Like the heart that is an organ pumping only so much amount of blood, there are limits to what the mind can handle. And do not wait for a flashing light or siren to tell you: you are empty, you have been pressed, squeezed out totally like an empty toothpaste tube. Oh man.

Nobody will pull the plug on this process of ‘pressing’ to the max. None knows it better than me. Only I, myself, can de-press.

Why does my heart feel like it is no more a proper functioning organ? One that smiles? And dances in a trance of love.

Is there love only in relationships?

Is it food and music that triggers the sense of love for life?

Has not the entire universe been created for the heart to experience its treasures? Treasures scattered throughout, never to stop or diminish in supply for the harmonic existence of all beings? Unless we think or act otherwise!

Oh Lord, my sight is not so clear when it comes to seeing the beauty in things around me. So please fix my vision to tune into the love that’s around me.

Oh Lord, my ears are sometimes quite deaf to the tunes of joy and happiness that all beings are engaged in, a testimony to the fact that love radiates in various frequencies and I need you to fine tune my hearing.

The altar of de-pression does not exist. Man and woman are much smarter.

The expression of ‘possibility’ brings benefits, tho.