5 awesome effects of loneliness

He has made loneliness the topic of lifelong research.

It is the invisible companion in his life.

He knows not know of its origins or its end. But here are some awesome effects when they are holding hands and walking together:

1. Loneliness creates Geniusness

Many a ‘brain wave’ moment have taken place when away from the fellow human being or pet or machine.

A search in solitude triggers the trajectory of discovery.

Or it establishes some never before overlooked knowledge.

All of it occurs at the end of an evening or weekend which started off with feelings of ‘something missing’ / ‘not belonging’ and much more.

It is a brave, courageous, difficult, tough, mighty and an adventure in the dark folks.

But it brings the proud moment at the end. He or she always arrives at something that makes him or her better than the beginning. Oh yes, Lonely people do live happily ever after at the end.

2. Loneliness is the new culture

Of course it is.

‘new’ as in 2012.

Here. In the now.

For the modern soul, it is a chapter in life to prepare him and her to the existential limits of possibility while not losing a grip on humanity.

How else can one comprehend the massive connections of his or her existence to all that goes on in the world today?

The stock markets, Military interventions, Heath hazards, Storm aftermaths, Lifestyle choices, Music festivals and you know better. If there is that block of time where he or she stands on to capture all of it and feed the soul – there is loneliness written somewhere on it.

We have the most connected network today. Well in the physical, structural, technological way. Be thankful to the disguised phenomenon of loneliness when it rubs the head, to wake him up or her for cultural updates.

3. Loneliness also means ‘Renewal’ and ‘Healing’

The phoenix bird. The lone ranger. The first love. The rambling heart.

All of the above had their share of solitude. A point in time when nothing in the world could douse the flames that burned the soul. Some brave souls achieved it by cooling it off  on the individualistic walk of  life.

That which nudges the heart to happiness, to the feeling of gratitude, to an act of kindness is powerful. It is a renewed state of the spirit in him or her. And it must come from within. Yes, it could be inspired by a sight or a melody.

Meditation is one technique. It is an ancient form of connecting to one’s inner self by choice. Spending energy in this manner promotes the overall health. Anyone is capable to do this. Healing works best when it is administered from within the body, along with the conscious breaths of respiration.

What does he have to lose but himself?

4.  Loneliness is the milestone to success

Success is arrival at a goal.

It is the completion of some objective.

It could be a celebration.

It could also be some profound way of getting things done which ‘he or she alone can do within his realm.’

Simple? Rings a bell?

No, it is not important to know about the life purpose and follow it to the dot in order to do something of this kind. He does not need super human strength to open the door for a fellow traveler to pass. She can smile a low radiant version at a stranger. The world needs more than materialistic advancements. It needs souls who stand out with their energy and efforts, in whatever measure they can give.

Loneliness re-defines success. So success is more than reaching the destination. It is all about happiness and the sort which is waiting to be created, the value of which is totally understood by those who have in some point of time experienced loneliness. These are the ‘milestones’. Note them down, pass them again, wave at it, it will be around to remind whether he has really ‘succeeded’ in the mortal life.

I am so big in my world, yet I know how small i am. So rub your hands together and jump up onto your feet. Success is calling.

5. Only you can command loneliness.

Of all the medicines,theories,research findings and related help for loneliness,

one common factor that helps to overcome it is –

U! The one in state of feeling alone.

What did you have for breakfast? What colors and shades are there in your dwelling? Do you get enough sunlight? What music do you listen to? What news did you read today or yesterday or last year? What were your favorite toys in childhood?

He must respect himself. The human mind is worthy of honor. It travels a maze of experiences in a lifetime, picking up information all along. Some o fit lies in the conscious memory while some are stored in the conscious. Add to this the food and its ingredients consumed. Now the inputs from different media especially the ads ‘promoting culture and society’. Then there is the music and movies and books component. So, what is the sum total of all this?

A unique personality. An individual who walks towards a distinct path with scenery similar to fellow men and women. Stride with confidence. Be aware of each slope, descent, twist or turn. Whenever it requires, sit down with loneliness and pour a cuppa. Gaze at all that is around and listen too. Note whatever ideas or options that appear. You alone make the decisions. It always is. It is what makes you so you. Command yourself!


Spending time with loneliness

pic credits: Lonely Trees by Jessica Bader

Explore !
Spending time with loneliness has rewards on self development.

I have been feeling a sense of loneliness for some time now. I had read articles on this and the steps to end it was not working well for me. None were effective. It lasted momentarily and i was soon in the nothingness zone. Untill, I decided to re-examine this monster and invent something for it !

It is more than the reality of not having a friend, companion, someone to talk to, trust, confide in, hang out with.

Could this be about being unable to speak my heart out?

Will there be someone who would come along and we would be of the same frequency?

Is it a basic social need to be accepted for who I am, a psychologically validated fact or just a part of the day or week or month or year we must hang out?

Yes and no and maybe. I am letting it go. I am going to explore it. Well, I started off in this world lonely and am frequently alone in my pursuits. It is a part of me I guess. However I spend the ‘loneliness’ time and all the other times I have got is just a kind of self belief. This is from my journalling, it has revealed that doing what I love and believe in is what matters, lonely or not. Explore ! Search the path(s) in life, there is always soething intresting and fun filled lying around somewhere waiting to be discovered, frequencies to be matched too maybe! Just explore !

“Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. Life’s cruelest irony.”
― Douglas Coupland, Shampoo Planet

Loneliness is the human condition. Cultivate it. The way it tunnels into you allows your soul room to grow. Never expect to outgrow loneliness. Never hope to find people who will understand you, someone to fill that space. And intelligent, sensitive person is the exception, the very great exception. If you expect to find people who will understand you, you will grow murderous with disappointment. The best you’ll ever do is to understand yourself, know what it is that you want, and not let the cattle stand in your way.”
― Janet Fitch, White Oleander

Language… has created the word “loneliness” to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word “solitude” to express the glory of being alone. – Paul Tillich

“We must become so alone, so utterly alone, that we withdraw into our innermost self. It is a way of bitter suffering. But then our solitude is overcome, we are no longer alone, for we find that our innermost self is the spirit, that it is God, the indivisible. And suddenly we find ourselves in the midst of the world, yet undisturbed by its multiplicity, for our innermost soul we know ourselves to be one with all being.”
Hermann Hesse