Spending time with loneliness


pic credits: Lonely Trees by Jessica Bader

Explore !
Spending time with loneliness has rewards on self development.

I have been feeling a sense of loneliness for some time now. I had read articles on this and the steps to end it was not working well for me. None were effective. It lasted momentarily and i was soon in the nothingness zone. Untill, I decided to re-examine this monster and invent something for it !

It is more than the reality of not having a friend, companion, someone to talk to, trust, confide in, hang out with.

Could this be about being unable to speak my heart out?

Will there be someone who would come along and we would be of the same frequency?

Is it a basic social need to be accepted for who I am, a psychologically validated fact or just a part of the day or week or month or year we must hang out?

Yes and no and maybe. I am letting it go. I am going to explore it. Well, I started off in this world lonely and am frequently alone in my pursuits. It is a part of me I guess. However I spend the ‘loneliness’ time and all the other times I have got is just a kind of self belief. This is from my journalling, it has revealed that doing what I love and believe in is what matters, lonely or not. Explore ! Search the path(s) in life, there is always soething intresting and fun filled lying around somewhere waiting to be discovered, frequencies to be matched too maybe! Just explore !

“Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. Life’s cruelest irony.”
― Douglas Coupland, Shampoo Planet

“
Loneliness is the human condition. Cultivate it. The way it tunnels into you allows your soul room to grow. Never expect to outgrow loneliness. Never hope to find people who will understand you, someone to fill that space. And intelligent, sensitive person is the exception, the very great exception. If you expect to find people who will understand you, you will grow murderous with disappointment. The best you’ll ever do is to understand yourself, know what it is that you want, and not let the cattle stand in your way.”
― Janet Fitch, White Oleander

Language… has created the word “loneliness” to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word “solitude” to express the glory of being alone. – Paul Tillich

“We must become so alone, so utterly alone, that we withdraw into our innermost self. It is a way of bitter suffering. But then our solitude is overcome, we are no longer alone, for we find that our innermost self is the spirit, that it is God, the indivisible. And suddenly we find ourselves in the midst of the world, yet undisturbed by its multiplicity, for our innermost soul we know ourselves to be one with all being.”
Hermann Hesse

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